Friday, March 28, 2014

to be woman

Act like the violet in its hidden cranny
Be quiet, gentle, modest and meek;
Don't be the bold and forward rose
Who preens each brightly painted streak.

...

Sisters, choose the pride of the rose
Tower over the cringing crowd--
Not like the violet in its cranny
Shrinking, fearful of speaking aloud.
An excerpt from Jutta Burggraf's "True Empowerment of Women" (from Empowering Women, 1995) depicting an anthologized verse of the late 1800s and its retooling during the feminist movements of 1970s.

Women--pit not rose 'gainst violet.
No rifts exist 'twixt iris and prim.
We are a garden. Deep and lively,

With perfect petal, style to stem.

Saturday, November 30, 2013

our talks


He speaks to me in butterflies:
our light ether'l song.
A painful-sweet and fleeting talk.
Inaudible. Still, strong.

His voice--(so gentle; poetry)
--renews the mind that slept,
calms the heart and touches
places cobwebbed and unswept.

Friday, October 18, 2013

poison pens (aaron burr got a bum rap)

 i've been listening to nancy isenberg's historical biography on aaron burr (fallen founder: the life of aaron aurr). isenberg paints a well-researched, detailed portrait of the early american (of "got milk?" fame). among the take-aways: (1) wow, i didn't know much about the guy before, but i like him. (2) geez, politics were just as disgusting then as they are now. policy happened on a sloshing sea of nauseating vitriol, immaturity and pettiness. (3) it got me thinking about how people mostly fail to be impartial toward "the opposition" or worse, how people actively choose to believe the worst about each other...  i'm surprised, but jefferson seems like a person who (at least in burr's case) allowed his beliefs to form his "truth" rather than truth informing his beliefs. i feel some long-winded abstraction coming ... biased critique. patronization. confirmation bias.

 
biased critique
ever notice how people miraculously sprout  "inconsistency radars" for the opposition, scanning statements for inaccuracy and general stupidity?

criticism in itself is not the problem. healthy critique is a powerful tool for growth... but why should the benefit of our criticism fall only on those who do not share our world view? in fact, the systematic neglect of critique and challenge is a cause of the echo chamber. we have to be comfortable with discovering truth as it exists and, so, not limit our critique. 

critique should come from a place of love for truth and in a posture of humility.  we recognize shortcomings in others' views, but remember that we aren't immune to failure in judgment.  we should not pretend that others know nothing. one of burr's big non-negotiables was sincerity. not pretending or posturing, but being genuinely invested in truth as well as in the good of others' generally. the idea isn't new.

patronization (and a lack of magnanimity)
sometimes folks automatically assume that others are naive and unaware of the implications of their worldview, or that they've arrived at these views without thought or reflection.

that mentality causes us to imagine others as being "trapped" by their worldview... particularly when we can't figure out why they believe what they do--(i.e, "so-and-so is so smart! and likeable! how can they believe that!?").  so we think... "well, maybe they haven't been exposed", or that maybe they have been emotionally manipulated or conned into the views they hold.

but more often than not, there are values--even virtues---in competition which make people's understanding of their views more complicated than we'd like to think. people are not utterly devoid of conscience or good sense. (philosophical side note: human will is oriented to what the intellect presents as "good". in that way, no one "chooses" or wills what is bad without first convincing their own intellect that the goal at hand is "good". in this way, human will requires value judgment of some kind.)

there is such a thing as personal agency, human reason and judgment. so, to have a meaningful conversation about the source of another's worldview, the first step is to not be talking all the time. it is an opportunity to learn and understand, simply for the sake of understanding--to love others well. to serve them with your views rather than berate them. listening helps us to better articulate our views, and introduce our thoughts more pragmatically to others. it may not garner agreement, but at least it will garner some semblance of understanding and minimize hostility.

confirmation bias
the combination of the above, being selectively critical and unfair in our estimation of others (or refusing to listen), leads us toward an error of confirmation bias.

jefferson's mistrust of burr--distrust that ultimately prompted his accusation of treason--began when he absorbed alexander hamilton's caricatures of burr, who had been a rival to hamilton in state and national politics. hamilton, i think it's fair to say, had it out for burr (politically speaking).  burr's reputation was smeared because of hamilton's gossip, but everyone who worked directly with burr knew otherwise.  when the time came, it was easy for jefferson to trust general james wilkinson's unsubstantiated accusations, because he was primed to believe what was consistent with his previously formed biases. (as it turns out, wilkinson forged evidence in the treason case against aaron burr. awkward.)

nothing is special about jefferson's haste to malign burr and believe the worst about him. in fact, i think we're all prone to do the same without patient attention to our own biases.

blah, blah. but, anyways... i'm halfway through this biography, and isenberg has made me a believer---burr is not the villain historical memory has made him out to be.

side note:  burr was a slave holder. :( i don't think he was a white supremacist. (thomas jefferson may have been...  read his personal writings here). still, owning people is not cool.

another one: burr was the son of esther edwards-burr. esther died when aaron was two. she also happened to be the daughter of famous presbyterian minister, jonathan edwards.
by the by...when she was a nine year old in 1743, she wrote in her journal about slavery: "that word “own” sounds strangely about people." at least somebody got it. right on, esther.

Friday, March 8, 2013

ahn nyeong ha se yo!

i'm learning korean!

i'm getting pretty could at transcribing hangul. i also gave myself a hangul name. (don't hate!)

자냐 ...
cha nya
 [To hear it, follow the link, the click 'listen']

pros:
it sounds like my name in english,
it has an actual meaning (which was sort of hard to do)

cons:
it's not at all traditional
it's meaning--"sleeping"--is stupid (even with all my hard work).

whatever.... if gweneth paltrow can name her daughter 'apple', i can name myself 'sleeping'. it's the perfect description for what i'd rather be doing anyway. i also love that the name lends itself to a pun. it's endearing!
 
anyways, learning korean will greatly increase my productivity in watching korean drama.

andddddd you're jealous.
질투?

Monday, July 2, 2012

gentleness

today's prayer:


Lord, help me to grow in gentleness.
Grant me patience when I feel offended.
Teach me flexibility in my response to others' needs.
Help me to learn humility to accept others as they are.
Show me the difference between holiness and self-importance.
Counsel me in the ways of true love and affection for others.